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William (Bill) Withers (July 4, 1938-March 30, 2020) was an American R&B singer-songwriter. Perhaps what struck me most about his life was that, after just 15 years, he courageously left the record industry to concentrate on his family and publishing business. His life, including his challenges as a stutterer, was the subject of the 2009 documentary film “Still Bill.” In a 2015 Rolling Stone interview, Withers said, “These days I wouldn’t know a pop chart from a Pop-Tart.” That year he was also finally convinced to appear on stage again, this time with Stevie Wonder and John Legend, at Withers’ Rock & Roll Hall of Fame induction ceremony.
As a 19-year-old piano player in an East Los Angeles soul group, I made the decision in 1969 to set aside the remote possibility of a career as a musician to devote myself to my marriage, a paying job and, eventually, raising a family. I’ve never regretted that decision. (Now, when I look around my large open garage on Sunday afternoons at what has become our socially distanced by 15 feet Good Karma Blues “Garage” Band, I’m grateful to have rediscovered music.)
“There are only two ways to live your life. One as if all that matters is to have someone love and accept you. The other is as though loving and accepting another person is all that matters. Often, when you choose the second you get the first.” ― Shannon L. Alder
As a depressed child and teenager, I was unable to reach out for help. Fortunately, as an adult, I began to open up to a wonderful therapist. I can only imagine how hard it must be for so many people in isolation right now who, when they most need emotional support, are reluctant or unable to lean on others. So, I would encourage each of us to reach out — by FaceTime, Zoom or phone — to just one person who might benefit from a human connection, and say or sing the following lyrics:
Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there’s always tomorrow
Lean on me, when you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on
For it won’t be long
‘Til I’m gonna need
Somebody to lean on
Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you won’t let show
You just call on me brother [or sister], when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you’ll understand
We all need somebody to lean on
Lean on me, when you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on
For it won’t be long
‘Til I’m gonna need
Somebody to lean on
Odds are you’ll make a huge difference in someone’s life (and yours, as well). These actions to relieve someone else’s suffering are one of the most valuable things we can do. And for those of you who may be struggling, you don’t have to fix it by yourself. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness; it is the exact opposite. I know how difficult it is to reach out when you’re down. But, I’m confident if you allow yourself to find someone to lean on, things will improve.
Let’s respect each other and stay safe out there!
Other titles by Mike during Covid-19:
Gandhi, King, Ikeda & the Coronavirus
Annie Leibovitz and the Coronavirus
Ansel Adams and the Coronavirus
Louise Penny and the Coronavirus
Harry Manx and the Coronavirus
Davy Jones and the Coronavirus
Prince Hamlet and the Coronavirus
Helen Keller and the Coronavirus
Pema Chodron and the Coronavirus
ABOUT MIKE LISAGOR – Mike Lisagor plays harmonica and sings in Good Karma Blues. He has written hundreds of magazine articles and blogs on a variety of business and Buddhist related topics. He is the author of “Romancing the Buddha,” which he adapted into a successful one-man show that he performed at Bainbridge Performing Arts and in Los Angeles and Washington D.C. His nature photographs have appeared in the Boston Globe, Bainbridge Island Magazine, Living Buddhism as well as in several local galleries. His latest graphic art project, “Reimagined Nature”, is in the lobby of New Motion Physical Therapy.